After a couple weeks of uninspired hiatus, Music Mondays is BACK!
This week, the song is a new one. It’s titled “Brave” and is by Sara Bareilles (who is known for past songs “Love Story” and “King of Anything”).
Why don’t you start by watching the video? And WATCH it, don’t just listen to it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUQsqBqxoR4
You done? Okay, first I just want to say how INCREDIBLE it is that Sara included people of all sorts…young, old, middle, skinny, not-so-skinny, black, white, etc in her video.
Next, let’s discuss the lyrics.
You can be amazing
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
You can be the outcast
Or be the backlash of somebody’s lack of love
Or you can start speaking up
Nothing’s gonna hurt you the way that words do
When they settle ‘neath your skin
Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
But I wonder what would happen if you
There’s the first verse. It basically, at least to me, says that you can be the person that turns words (negative ones) into ones of pain, torment, guilt, fear…the person that says “You’re dumb”, “I can’t stand you”, “Why do you even exist?” “You’re such a fag”, or “No one will ever love you” to someone. Or, you can be the person receiving those harsh words, feeling the harsh reality that there are horrible people in the world.
Or…
You can be the one that speaks up about it. The one that says to the cruel abusers “No. I will NOT stand for this. You will not treat this fellow human being this way.” The one that stands by the abused, the bullied, the marginalized and fights for their rights to be heard, to be loved.
Because, even though the ditty says “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” everyone knows it’s a lie. Words do hurt, even worse than sticks and stones. Words cut deep, beyond the surface, into our very souls. I know this. I’ve been cut by words like this. I’ve been treated like this, by people of that first category who use words as a weapon. I’ve had people call me a crybaby, useless, etc. And it hurts. Even five, ten years later…it still hurts.
But there’s hope…
Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave
This hope comes through bravery. Really, you may think it’s hard, but it’s not. Stand UP for those who need it. Speak up. Be brave.
To be brave means to show courage. To show courage means to persevere, to withstand danger, fear, or difficulty. Is it easy? No. Is it the right thing to do? Yes. Such a large and resounding yes.
Everybody’s been there,
Everybody’s been stared down by the enemy
Fallen for the fear
And done some disappearing,
Bow down to the mighty
Don’t run, stop holding your tongue
Maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is
I’d venture to say that a large percentage of us have had something negative said about us. And, yes, I’ll admit, I’ve said negative things about others. Some true, some not-so-true. However, even when we are tormented by the words of others, even when we just want to fall away from everything, even when we want to give up and give in…we KNOW we don’t have to. We have wings, and what beautiful wings they are! We need to take them, spread them out, break out of the cages and shackles that we’ve been so cruelly forced into, and fly. Because all of us (yes, even YOU!) are wonderful, beautiful, courageous, and brave individuals.
So stand up. Don’t take crap from ANYBODY. If someone puts you down, then they are not worth it. Clearly, they have their own battles to face, and are obviously too scared or self-absorbed to admit to it. But you be brave. I know you can do it. I’ve gotten through it, and so can you. Your brave…it must span across the oceans. No, the galaxies.
And since your history of silence
Won’t do you any good,
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don’t you tell them the truth?
Don’t stay silent. Please. There are SO many people that need you. People who are told that they are unlovable because they don’t look like models or athletes. Young women (and men) who are raped and yet not believed. People who are treated poorly because they don’t share the same religious or political views as their peers. People who are gay, lesbian, bi, asexual, trans*, etc. People who aren’t good at sports. People who are really smart and thus “nerdy”. People who aren’t so smart and thus “dumb”. People who don’t have jobs. People who don’t have the “right” jobs. People who have mental disabilities. People with lots of emotional baggage. People who are single. People who are poor. People who don’t speak the native language. People who are told what to do with their own bodies. And so, so, SO many other people.
If you encounter anyone responding negatively to ANY of these people for these “reasons” listed above, please, stand up for them. That’s what YOU can do. You be the one who is brave for them. As a person who was bullied, I know how hard it is to stand up for yourself and legitimately be heard without being laughed at and not truly listened to. I know how much it would’ve meant to have someone be brave for me.
Now, it’s YOUR turn.
Will you be brave?
Will you stand up for those who need you?
Will you put an END to bullying?
Will you be the one who says “No. I will not put up with your treating this individual like he or she is inferior.”?
Will you?
I just wanna see you.
(Note: If you have EVER been bullied or treated like an inferior, I am here for you if you need someone to talk to. My email is erinrebecca922@gmail.com. I can’t promise I’ll make everything better, but I will help how I can. Just know that you are loved.)